Dealing with disappointment

Where I type out what I feel like I need to hear and pretend someone else said it.

The hardest part about doing something is doing it wrong.

The worst part about that is you don’t always know you’re doing it wrong until it’s over.

I guess that’s the other part of ‘experience’. You only hear about the good part of experience but it’s much more than doing something right over and over again, assuming you can do no wrong.

No. Experience is failing. Experience is messing up. Experience is understanding that there is a right way and a wrong way and that the line between the two is sometimes blurred. Experience is knowing when bending the rules or going against your gut is and isn’t worth it. Experience is knowing that just because you’ve gotten away without using conditional photo releases before doesn’t mean you will again. Experience is knowing that giving a discount on your price is giving a discount on your worth to someone who doesn’t know the difference. Experience means not assuming anything.

Experience means no matter what you do, no matter how much work you put in, no matter how many discounts you give, and no matter how many times you ‘meet in the middle’ with someone, some people just aren’t going to like it. And you have to be okay with that.

The hard part is that you don’t immediately know what’s wrong or right until you’ve stumbled upon what you’ve done differently and can point them out. And sometimes what works for one client won’t work for another. It makes sense, right? It happens in literally every other field. Once you can realize that you provide a service just like everyone else, then you can move on. Some kids learn better using visual cues. Some people prefer jeans from Express. Some people would rather drive in a car without music. Having a preference isn’t a bad thing and doesn’t always mean you did something bad.

Try to find what you did wrong in any given situation and then find what you did right. Next time it will be better.


Experience is knowing that failing isn’t the end of the world.


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